Loving others is not always easy. However, there are some that make it a delight to love them. Those that we share the same interest and passions. Even when situations are challenging, these individuals are still worth the fight, so love prevails. But what about those that are just difficult people to start with.
Difficult people are not only difficult to love; they are also difficult to be around. We go to great lengths to avoid these types of people. We hide when at work. We tell our children to say we are not home when they call. We even walk the other way at church, pretending we didn’t see them.
The worse may be those you want to love, but they find it hard to accept that love. So they do whatever they can to sabotage the relationship. No matter how hard you try or how many times you forgive and restore the relationship, they reject that love. They find every flaw in the relationship and pick apart themselves, giving every excuse as to why they don’t deserve that love.
No matter the type of difficult person you encounter, loving the unlovable is just hard. But what if we made it easy. What if we didn’t view others as difficult to love but as those most deserving of our love. Maybe they are being difficult because they have never experienced real love. They could be in your life for just that reason, to experience real love.
From some personal experience, those I find difficult tend to reflect some difficult characteristics in me. Yep, difficult people can be a mirror. Wouldn’t you want others to view you as deserving of love if you were difficult to them?
I challenge you to love those difficult people with the love that has been shown to you. Love them as you would love yourself. And if loving yourself is difficult, start there by showing yourself some grace.
We all deserve love.
